1.) How did you experience this book? Were you engaged immediately or did it take you a while to “get into it”?
2.) Describe the main characters of the book, their beliefs, their character, motivations, and passions? How did their beliefs coincide with their actions?
3.) What character did you most relate to the most and why?
4.) Name some of the main themes the author brings up in this book ie, spirituality, domestic violence, race, infidelity, abortion, and socioeconomic status. Find a passage or passages that best portray that theme and the messages you think the author is trying to portray. (Feel free to omit any themes that are too difficult for the group to discuss out loud.)
5.) In what ways are Mari and Amy similar, and in what ways do they differ? (You can do this with many characters.)
6.) Thinking about the theme of spirituality/religion. Reflect on what some of the messages regarding spirituality that the author conveys through the characters and the plot?
7.) How was abortion justified (a form of self-defense or mercy) by some and demonized (a malicious murder) by others? (please omit this question if too controversial for group to discuss.
8.) Two characters were victims of domestic violence. How did each one cope with her situation?
9.) In the rape scene with Mari, how does race and socioeconomic status complicate the issue of date rape for her ?
10.) Mother Moonshun delivers two different types of justice at the end of the book. Which form of justice, restorative justice (forgiveness) or payback (an eye for an eye) type of justice resonates with you the most?
11.) Do you think restricting access to reproductive care (abortion/contraception) decreases use of abortion/contraception, and what has history shown us?
12.) What groups are impacted the most by restricting access to abortion/contraception?
13.) What role do our spiritual/religious leaders play in our thoughts and feelings about the issue of abortion/contraception? How has their influence hurt us and helped us when thinking about these issues?
14.) Dr. Gray is an example of one male perspective on the issue of abortion. Thinking of the men closest to you, how do you think they feel about the issue of abortion, and is this perspective an important one to you?
15.) Sexual violence impacts at least one in six women according to some estimates, and even higher rates have been reported among some high risk groups. Discuss some of these high risk groups, women/men in the military, women/men in college, people who identify as LGBTQ. Why are these groups more vulnerable than others? Is it the individual or the surrounding culture that is most responsible for high rates of sexual violence in these groups?